inherited 3 teenage kids...........Update

I found out that the kids mother left a proper and legal will giving us custody of the kids and her estate which will be used to fund the kids education..... thats the master plan anyways.My attorney see no problems at the moment.

The father is being held on several federal charges.... he had 3 different social security numbers, 3 different Indiana drivers license, 2 of which were CDL license, dealing and transporting drugs, operating a commercial motor vehicle under the influence and a few others from what I am hearing.

The state of Indiana has him on rape,domestic abuse, child abuse, criminal confinement, murder charges plus a few others.

I dont believe he will see the light of day for a very long time.

The kids mom was recovering from her injures when it was found that a infection was eating up her insides. At some point in time he had given her a STD which he had been treated for but never informed our friend. The docters are saying she had this for several years and a routine female exam cant detect it. She had surgery to remove both breasts, all the female organs, a large part of the small intestine and clean out pockets of infection.

In the end this killed her, 12 hours after the sugery she went into cardiac arrest.

The kids are and have been in therapy since this all started 8 weeks ago.

My wife(Beth) and I sat last night and had a long talk with the kids. They know we are not trying to replace their parents but only to finish the job of raising them. I think they understand that we are not always going to agree but wife and I will always have their best interest at heart.

I know its going to be a long road but also know it will have its own rewards plus its just the right thing to do.

sorry that this became a bit graphic and long but I just needed to vent my anger over this.

Rob

Good luck.

Wont re-iterate what everyone else has said...

Be caring, be compassionate, be the authority, be fair, and participate in therapy.

But most right now you two will be a shoulder to cry on, and an open ear to let them vent.

YOU WILL DO FINE!!!!! !!!!!

Rob

I can't think of a much greater sacrifice than doing what you plan to do, may you be rewarded for it!

The dad sounds like a real peach. How did the kids end up normal. You said they were respectful, good grades etc. Did they have much contact with their father?

Beth and I have been to more of these kids ball games and such than he ever was.

The dad has no money for legal fees and Pam(kids mother) has a attorny and a divorce was in motion.

I had a phone conversation with him today and meeting with him monday morning but he sees us having no problems given he is setting in a federal penitentiary as I type.

I know the 15yo boy has some anger management issues they have been dealing with but a good student, 11yo girl is very clingy,very artsy kind of gal and also a good student. The 18yo boy is a pre med student, mature beyond his years and finished high school with a 3.8 grade average.

All and all they have turned out well and Pam did a great job raising them.

Rob

best of luck and may your God be behind you.

-mike a. tenn. (formerly from indiana)

good luck and keep your head up

Jay