No preaching here. But why do you throw out a scenario for the world to comment on and then be so snotty about taking a minute to listen to and empathize with a somewhat similar situation someone else has lived through? I'll quote your statement: "And i don't really care what your father did to you after the sun went down around your house, so spare me your preachin will ya?" Not much empathy there! You REALLY do come across as a "troll" and a jerk to boot! Notice I said "come across"... all we know of you is in this "thread" and we all know it's risky to make any assumptions of folk's character by what is posted anonymously on the 'net. I REALLY hope you are just having a bad day, and that comment was "out of charcater for you", and that you someday find peace with your Dad's memory. From the tone of your posts it seems you have yet to find that peace, and I suspect the tractor issue may be a coverup for other resentment you have of other "issues" of farming with your Dad. I LOVE farming and the chance to grow up on the farm. However, it's REALLY sad how many family farm relationships (my own included) end up with anger within the family over who is the manager (boss) of the operation... in charge of the checkbook. If you farmed with your Dad for 40 years, and had no say in the operation, that's sad. I know. I had a similar experience with my Uncle, although not for quite so many years... he was "good as gold" to me, but was "going to live forever" and had NO interest in an orderly transition of my taking over the farm. When he suddenly had a stroke and wound up in a rest home with no long term care insurance, it nearly cost me the farm (which was LONG before willed to me) and all the "sweat equity" I had in it. Thankfully, I was able to hang on to most of it although I no longer farm it myself. I'll close by saying the ones of us who grew up farm kids, and stuck around hoping to take over the farm someday from relatives unwilling to set up the orderly transition of management are DAMNED FOOLS... myself included! Comments by others who have gone through the "family farm thing"????
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