redtom said: (quoted from post at 00:24:41 02/01/14) My 13 yr old son, my only son, youngest of three, has no interest in ANYTHING I do. He is smart, almost too smart, a good student, almost too good. He has no interest in anything I do inside or out. He hates old tractors, grease, dirt, heck-anything with a motor. I tried over the years to include him. He could fix stuff if he wanted, he's smart enough, but thinks fixing is a waste of time. We live in the country-have no neighbors under the age of 80 so old time playing like we did is out. I bought a quad runner, I think he rode it twice and that was hard cuz we're not doing good money wise. Hes trying sports-broke leg twice (he's skinny)-but not discouraged. But, its pretty obvious he'll not be an all star. He's got more courage than me. I was the shop class geek in school, hanging out, smoking and working on cars when I was in school. I feel he's lazy. But he does have a ton of homework. I think if I left or dropped dead he wouldn't notice. I beg him to do a few chores which he ALWAYS does half a$$ed. WE have absolutely nothing in common. He's bored and I'm heart broke knowing when he is an adult He'll go and not look back.
I only read a few posts but I'll echo what some others have said. He'll be much happier and you'll have a better relationship if you get interested in something he enjoys rather than trying to get him to like the things you enjoy.
My boys were very good athletes. They loved playing baseball and excelled at it. My wife and I put our interests on hold for many years to support the boys in their interests. Not just going to their games but to other activities they were involved with. One of those was Scholastic Bowl which our oldest son was involved in as well as Math Counts in junior high. You said your son is smart. Ask him if he'd be interested in Scholastic Bowl. The competitions are actually fun to attend, but often the parents come away feeling kind of dumb compared to a bunch of junior high or high school kids. Another benefit is the kids have study groups to prepare for those competitions. They build some strong friendships during those times.
The other thing is you said he's 13. It's rare that a 13 year old is going to be interested in doing stuff with his dad.
My youngest son is now in his late 20's. Like me, he's been interested in cars and racing from an early age. We both enjoy stock car racing. I like traditional hot rods and customs. He won't give that kind of car a second look, but he likes modern sports cars which I don't care for. He's his own person. That is good.
One more thing about your son. He's 13. More than likely his interests are girls!
This post was edited by Pops1532 at 08:38:28 02/01/14.
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