Re: nitemare of quitting

Posted by SweetFeet on August 02, 2017 at 08:06:29 from (70.35.102.196):

In Reply to: nitemare of quitting posted by olgentdc on August 02, 2017 at 05:49:25:

olgent,

I think change is tough for most of us - but we just have to try to remember that it's not necessarily bad... it's just different. (But I will admit to you that I too struggle with some aspects of aging and some thoughts just make me downright sad... but I try to fight it with prayer and a positive attitude.)

If you can pay-off your land - then rent it out... that might be something to consider.

Would your health conditions allow you to do some custom work for another farmer?

Or even maybe sell your machinery... and just hire-out to help another farmer?

Either way mentioned above, would permit you to still do some of the farming activities that you have enjoyed all these years - but would remove a lot of stress/worry from the equation.

Are there things you have always wanted to do - or places you have always wanted to see... but farming kept you from doing those things? If yes, maybe now is the time to do those things (if you and your wife's health issues would permit it.)

Everybody has a different story, different thoughts, different feelings.

And while it is NOT the same because my husband is NOT battling cancer...Here are a couple of ways that we came about change:

ONE:
In his mid-40's my husband broke is foot very badly so he could not harvest our crop. Some great folks from our church harvested for us. I think this "break in the action" of farming... gave my husband the insight that he wanted to do more than put in 10-hour days at a factory all week long - then come home and do chores, clean barns, and jump on a tractor for field work (or do mechanical work on a tractor or piece of equipment).

I remember him asking my dad, "Joe, how did you know when it was time to quit farming?". My Dad replied, "I knew... when it just wasn't fun anymore." (Dad also worked full-time at a factory in addition to farming.)

After one more crazy-busy year of farming on top of working 65-68 hours per week in a factory... my husband decided to rent out our farmland. It was his decision alone - because I told him it had to be his decision and I'd support whatever he decided.

And it was hard... for both of us. The first couple of years when the renter pulled in to plant or harvest - we both got tears in our eyes.

BUT it turned out to be a wonderful thing!!!
Now in his upper 50's my husband has the time to just tinker and do projects for the fun of it. He is really enjoying the freedom to do more of the things he'd like to do. We linger longer over coffee on the weekends. Projects that he does take-on, don't have to be completed at a frenzied pace anymore. If we wish to go to an auction or a threshing show - we don't have to hurry home because he's got to go do some field work.

TWO:
I do have a health issue, that while not deadly at this point... it will get worse with age, and it does definitely slow me down now. Sometimes slows me down to a pace that is dang frustrating! But all I can do at those times is, well... slow it down. If I have to go sleep for an hour to get through the rest of the day, then that's just what I have to do. And I have to make a conscious effort to remember to be thankful about it all because it could be worse.

I hope all goes well for you, sir. I will keep you in my prayers regarding both your health issues and regarding your decisions about what direction to take your life from here.

Best wishes to your and your wife,
SweetFeet

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