Re: When to step in

Posted by Bill B on October 31, 2003 at 18:09:09 from (68.118.183.168):

In Reply to: When to step in posted by Shaggy on October 31, 2003 at 13:56:00:

That is a tough situation. My father was very sick with cancer the last 2 years of his life, so he knew he could not drive. My mother would drive him to the shopping center parking lot and let him drive slowly around there when there was little traffic. Being able to drive is linked to being independant, and when one can no longer drive, they must admit they are now dependant on others. That is tough on many folks. My neighbor next door got so bad he would drive by watching the white line down the center of the road. I took him to the doctor once, and asked how his vision was, and he said"fine, I just saw that car cross the road ahead". It was a lawn tractor! Soon after, he was on his way to town, and turned left to enter the bakery lot, and turned left in front of a state cop. The cop almost collided with him, and had to drive off the road to avoid the wreck. The cop took his licence, and told him to drive home and not drive until they contacted him. He blamed the cop for going too fast. The cops sent him a notice to have his eyes checked, and I took him to the doctor, and he failed the test. He blamed that on the optician. He got bitter and rude, and I stopped going to see him. He now rides the geezer bus to town once a week, when they come to this area.
My mother also got bad near the end. The last time I rode with her, she drove much too fast for in town driving, and I complained. She said her vision was only good far away, and she wanted to get there before what she saw had changed. Soon afterwards she stopped driving and gave her car to my brother.
I would suggest trying hints that for his safety, and the safety of others, he not drive except when the weather is clear, the roads dry, the sun is up, the traffic light, and offer to take him where he must go at other times. It is important for these folks to still be in charge of themselves, but it is important for them and others to be safe on the road. My girlfriend's vision is poor at night, so I always drive at night. The bright lights do not bother me. Good luck, you are perhaps walking on eggs.

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