Re: A questions for Dads

Posted by ShepFL - rather long on January 29, 2004 at 16:53:56 from (63.175.91.227):

In Reply to: A questions for Dads posted by Youngster on January 29, 2004 at 14:56:15:

Hang in there Hoss!
Us Dad's ain't all that bad. I know it seems like we are tough on ya but then life is tough. If your Dad is anything like my Dad or like I am for my 2 boys it will all work out. Long and short of this conversation though it is still Dad's place and you are his son. What he says must be obeyed. No questions asked - if you have an issue with it discuss it later AFTER the task at hand is done.

Now that said, as a Scoutmaster and father each of my son's are very special to me. Each has their own talent. I tap each of them for the talents I need to assist me with chores around the place. I often task them both to do things I know that are beyond their skills. It is not so much completion of the task that I am after but the desire to give it your best shot! As long as they HONESTLY try I am satisfied.

NOBODY LIKES A QUITTER OR WHINER!!

Beyond that what I have settled on is switching chores every month. That way each has a fair share of the workload and each can work to get it accomplished. The one that does the best for the month gets a bonus, be it FREE FRIDAY, spend nite with a buddy, no chore weekend, etc. That is then rolled up to who does the best over a quarter (3 month period). This gives my sons a goal to work towards, they must plan and track their own progress and end the end there is recognition of their efforts.

Talk to your Dad about balancing the workload and if no luck ask him for some consideration on the "Above and Beyond" work you do. Might be your Dad has come to rely heavily on your help and inadvertently is taking the effort for granted. Again, though he is DAD.

I would also strongly challenge your brother to assist - set some goals to achieve. Some of our best goal setting is done right at the supper table. This is where we discuss EVERYTHING, GOOD, BAD OR INDIFFERENT. Kind of hard to argue with a mouthful of good cookin'

Here are some goals adapted for Shep's Place

1. To live in harmony with, enjoy, love and respect the whole creation and our Creator.

2. Create a environment where everyone, and everything is accepted for who, and what they are, will be and what we are becoming together.

3. Provide opportunity for my boys to live on the land, if they desire.

4. Provide educational opportunities, and meet community responsibilities.

5. Make time for family, friends, neighbors, recreation and to do things well.

6. Maintain good physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.

7. Work at the farm being self-sustaining and diversified.

8. To become debt free.

Again, hang in there. 14 is a tough age when you are going through it. Besides, it could always be worse - see pic :)

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